Have you been asking yourself questions such as:
- “What is the point of it all?”
- “Isn’t there more to life than this?”
- “What does it take to be truly happy and at peace?”…
By Gregory Malouf, author of Silent: The Power of Silence
“As I pursued my own journey to answer these questions, I met many people who felt the same way I did, and I began to ask new questions. Why are so many of us – even those who claim to have had wonderful childhoods – so caught up in fear, conflict, drama and unease? Why do so many relationships fail? Why are we rarely satisfied no matter how much we have?
The answer to all these questions begins with the limiting beliefs we carry – whether we are aware of them or not. These beliefs formed when we internalized the distorted thoughts we learned from our past experiences, often very early in life. Over time, the most ingrained of these thoughts begin to feel like a part of us, when in fact, they are not who we are. They are only what we were taught! Through greater awareness, it is possible to reclaim our inner power and choose happiness over the unease we carry. In other words, we can create peace and joy – in fact, complete abundance – in all areas of life!
There are six important concepts to understand.
1. Separation from others comes from separation from Self.
Beginning early in life, we learn from those around us and through our own experiences that we exist in a body that is separate from all others and, in order to protect that body, we need to separate ourselves from anything that makes us vulnerable. This includes showing (and even feeling) our true feelings, as well as connecting to and expressing our true natures. All unease comes from that separation. To relieve unease, therefore, we must reconnect to Self.
2. We can choose peace and joy.
Feeling is the key to living. As you learn to follow your true feelings, to value them and not discard them as unimportant, you will come to see that in any situation, you have a choice. In time you can learn to follow the path of behaviors that bring you peacefulness and love rather than follow the path that brings you unease and painful emotions.
3. Fear limits our ability to experience sustainable peace and joy.
The separation which we have been conditioned to believe is real causes us to base our choices on fear as a way of protecting ourselves. When we let go of fear, anything is possible! Your early experiences in life created the fears that separated you from your all-loving, all-knowing inner Self. These fears you learned formed the negative thoughts that you carry through life, but they are not who you are and they can be undone! When we face the past we can learn to accept it, and in accepting it release the fear that limits us.
4. Peace and joy are not found outside of you.
Our need to attach to people and things comes from a misguided belief that fulfillment, love, security, and acceptance can and must be found outside ourselves. This belief is a trap, because as soon as we get whatever it is we think we are missing, we start looking for the next thing. Once you understand that all you need is already within you, you can free yourself from this cycle and begin to create authentic relationships that nurture your spirit rather than deplete it.
5. Healthy, authentic relationships begin within you.
Only when we learn to understand our own feelings and motivations, can we connect with others in a meaningful way. Other people cannot make us feel something unless we allow it, and they cannot give us satisfaction or fulfillment. That comes when we can authentically bring the peace, joy and love we create within us to others.
6. Forgiveness is a gift.
Anger, bitterness and resentment are a big part of the unease we feel. When it comes to feeling deep hurt or the sense that we’ve been wronged, an extra step is needed to truly heal. That step is forgiveness. Choosing to forgive simply means that you no longer carry anger, bitterness or resentment toward someone else, regardless of what he or she did or said. The first person you must forgive is yourself. Forgiving ourselves is often more difficult than forgiving others. Yet, once you do this, you will end your self-doubt, self-loathing, and self-criticism and start to mend the rift that has effectively cut you off from life and those within it.”
Gregory will soon be releasing a new free 6-week program to help you make powerful changes in your life. The information I share expands on each of these concepts and gives you practical ways to apply them in your own life. Be sure to watch for it!